We live across the country, alone or
with families. We earn varying wages, root for different teams, have
opposing political beliefs. We even alter in how we play the APBA
game — basic version or a more complex master game for those who
use the dice and cards to replay baseball (and other sports) seasons,
or computer programs.
Yet there is one thing that bonds this
eclectic group together and it's something that became very evident
to me in the past few weeks of a trying time.
Each one who plays the game, who
meticulously records contests either in tournaments or replays of
complete past seasons, has heart. It's the common ground, and, as
corny as it sounds, no matter who the APBA player is, those hearts
beat in unison when it comes to kindness.
I noticed this a few weeks ago when I
received an email from the APBA game company. David Yamada, an APBA
player from Jamaica Plain, Mass., sent me an electronic gift
certificate for a set of cards. I met David through the APBA Facebook
page and we later connected as Facebook friends of our own. David is
the director of the New Workplace Institute at Suffolk University Law
School in Boston. He may be the most intelligent Facebook friend I
have. (Sorry to all my other friends who send me funny fart jokes and
whacky animal videos). He's a professor, I'm a reporter. Remember
what I said about varying careers and education?
He sent it because of the common bond
we have for the game. I used it to buy the 1961 baseball season —
something I've wanted to get for years.
Then, two weekends ago, David Moss, the
owner and optometrist at Eyecare Center of Memphis, messaged me and
said he had an extra ticket to a Memphis Grizzlies basketball game if
I wanted to go.
I had never met a fellow APBA player
before. I live only an hour from Memphis, so I headed to the game. I
met David for the first time in the Club 3 section, row E, of the
FedEx Forum. And, as the Grizzlies built a double-digit lead over the
Portland Trail Blazers that night, we talked APBA. I'm replaying the
1950 season now; David played it before. While Marc Gasol hit hook
shots and Zac Randolph grabbed rebounds, we compared notes of that
season six decades ago.
At one point, I mentioned that I had
played a Yankees game earlier that day and Joe DiMaggio had hit two
home runs in the contest. “Single or double-column card?” he asked,
referring to the game card Joltin' Joe had for that season.
Others around us may have listened in,
but they had no idea what we were talking about. We talked about our APBA history and gaming obsessions. For me, despite only
having met David for a few minutes, I felt like I knew him for years.
I had found a new friend.
Then, last week, I posted a note about
my beloved APBA cat May. I had the cat for nearly 8 years, but she
began suffering seizures and things were pretty bleak for a few weeks. I suffered with her; it was constant on my mind. I couldn't help May and it kept bringing me back to when my wife was in kidney failure some 10 years ago. I was helpless and frightened I'd lose yet another family member.
On Saturday,
after May was wracked with multiple, violent seizures I took her to
the veterinarian where they had to put her to sleep. It was
heart-breaking; I wept in the clinic, dealing with death again. I
posted a note on the ABPA Facebook page about my loss later that night. It was
probably somewhat narcissistic in doing so, but these were the friends I turned
to.
(A friend invited me to his home
Saturday night for dinner with his girlfriend and said they had a
movie to watch that would help me through this. It was a Nicholas
Sparks film. A freakin' Nicholas Sparks film! Why not just put on Ol'
Yeller for someone who was grieving the loss of a pet?)
Within minutes of my post, the APBA
community responded. Several gave condolences. They offered prayers.
And they were not patronizing; they were serious.
And then a funny, touching thing
happened. Some began posting pictures of their own APBA cats.
Pictures of the cats on the APBA playing field, laying among the game
cards and in boxes.
They understood. The bond.
A few weeks ago, one of the APBA guys
posted a notice that his mother had passed away. Again, within in
minutes, heartfelt comments poured in. We didn't know the guy
personally, but we each felt his sorrow and pain.
We come from all over and from
different demographics that have made us individuals. Those outside
the APBA community may see us as “geeks” playing a kid's game
with dice and cards. But these past few weeks, I found a strong
likeness among all of us. A bond, I feel, that's stronger than many I
have with people I've known for years.